"I have been a counselor myself, have seen a handful of therapists over the last twenty plus years for various issues and am a firm believer that there are times when an objective viewpoint is essential to one’s growth and well-being. Sharing deeply private and intimate experiences with another, however, can be unsettling and should be entrusted only to someone worthy. Jassy Timberlake merits that honor. It is rare…extremely rare…to come across a therapist as exceptional as she. Jassy is truly a gem." (R.P. Melrose, MA) Like most other forms of psychotherapy, sex therapy is exclusively talk therapy, which involves meeting with a therapist on a regular basis to talk about how to overcome whatever problem a person has identified. In exchange, the sex therapist shares his or her knowledge of human sexuality and expertise in working with sexual functioning and relationship challenges. Sex therapists are trained to diagnose the psychological origins of sexual issues and work to find solutions. This will often mean collaborative relationships with physicians whose specialty is sexual medicine. (Despite common misconceptions, sex therapy does NOT involve sexual or physical contact between therapist and client.) As with any form of therapeutic relationship, an ability to feel comfortable with a therapist is very important. Many people find it embarrassing to talk about sex, thus it's even more important that you find a therapist who puts you at ease and with whom you can begin to talk freely.
Why do people seek sex therapy?
Over the course of a person's lifetime stress, trauma, illness, the side effects of medications, depression and lack of self-esteem can often negatively impact a person’s sexual functioning and desire. It is not uncommon for couples and individuals to experience sex-related challenges at some point in their lives. Everybody deserves to experience satisfying, exciting, loving and fulfilling sexual relationships and sexual contact and sex therapy can often help.
What kinds of problems do people want help with?
Some of the issues that sex therapy can help with are as follows:
Difficulties either getting and/or keeping an erection
Difficulties maintaining control of ejaculation or trouble with “timing”
Inability to orgasm either alone or with a partner
Finding the ability to relax and enjoy sexual activity a challenge
Lack or loss of sexual desire
Feelings of embarrassment or shame about your body and sexual functioning
Painful intercourse (known as Dyspareunia)
Involuntary spasming of the vagina (known as Vaginismus)
History of sexual abuse, rape or threatened sexual trauma
Intimacy and relationship problems that are affecting your sexual relationship
When feeling bad about your body is negatively affecting your sexual life
When you've been faking orgasms because you're too ashamed to talk about your difficulty climaxing
When you find yourself passing on having sex with your partner because it's difficult to get and/or maintain erections
You're so worried about "performing" that you avoid sexual intimacy
Since having a baby, you're less interested in sex
You want sex frequently and your partner isn't interested
You don't want to have sex and you feel like your partner is constantly bugging you about it
You feel like you spend too much time thinking or fantasizing about sex
Having sex is painful and you feel hopeless about ever freely enjoying it
You have questions about your sexuality and don't know who to ask
Your partner wants an "open" relationship and you're unsure if you can handle it or even want to try
"Just want to thank you so much for your support, encouragement, openmindedness, positivity and many other traits. It has been a wonderful growth process, and I couldn't have imagined a better form of therapy or therapist for that matter. I just want you to know how much we value and admire your abilities. You, and the sessions, have challenged us in ways we couldn't have imagined, and we are so much better for it. Thanks for exceeding expectations. No wonder you have the reputation you do.(P & N, Florence, MA)"